I'm using the MetaEdit evaluation tutorial.  In section 4.2 "Adding representational precision with ports" while drawing the relationships I receive the error "you cannot create a relationship between 2 males and female starting from a male with those ports."  There doesn't seem to be a quick way to verify the port definitions.  I used the "graph tool" to reveiw "types" and "bindings" settings and they looked good (matched what example was expecting).   I used the "object tool" to verify ports on symbol were correct.

With tutorials, it's always a little hard to guess what might have gone wrong - hard for you and for me! The key things to check would be these (you've already mentioned 2 and 3, but double-checking against the information here would be sensible):

1. that you are clicking in the right places in the diagram, to select the appropriate ports: the right edge of the Father, the left edge of the Mother, and the top edge of the Child. As you hover over the symbols, you can see the closest port's connectable highlighted.
   
2. that the Male symbol has one connectable with a Child port on the top edge (Fig 4-9 and 4-10) and another with a Parent port on the right edge (Fig 4-11). For the Female symbol: Child on the top as before, but Parent on the left (Fig 4-12).
   
3. that in the Graph Tool's Bindings tab, the Family relationship has the following connections (Role:Port:Object):
   • Parent:Parent:Male
   • Parent:Parent:Female
   • 0..N Child:Child:Person
     
4. that you have created only one Port type, Family Port, and for that only two instances, Parent and Child:
   1. Select the Type Browser tab of the MetaEdit+ main launcher,
   2. select the Family Tree project in the Projects list on the left,
   3. select Show: Ports in the pull-down list bottom center, and
   4. select Family Port in the Port types list in the middle (it should be the only Port type, assuming you have only Family Tree open).
   5. The right list should now show just Child and Parent. If it shows multiple occurrences, e.g. two Child instances, double-click the extra one and change its name to Child_OLD or similar.
   6. You can then check the ports in the Symbol Editor for Male and Female, and in the Graph Tool Bindings tab, and delete any occurrences of Child_OLD, replacing them with Add Existing... and choosing the Family Port type, then its instance Child.

If that doesn't help, maybe you could export your diagram and post it here? From the Diagram Editor choose Graph | Export To... | MetaEdit+ Patch File - it will probably give a couple of warnings which you can ignore, and will ask for a name for the repository (e.g. salking), and for the file (e.g. salking.mec). You can upload and attach a file to a post with the zip icon in the full posting editor (the Quick Reply field only has the most basic toolbar buttons; click the diagonal arrow button on its toolbar to get the full editor).